Is the groom's family still responsible for the rehearsal dinner?

The rehearsal dinner can hold as many time-honored traditions as a wedding, but it doesn’t always have to. While the groom’s parents typically plan and pay for the dinner, nowadays it is not unheard of for couples to foot the bill themselves, or for both sets of parents to split the costs — or for another member of the wedding party to treat. Whichever scenario you choose, and regardless of who hosts, there are still a few rules you should follow:

• If the parents of the groom are eager to participate (and they often are!), it’s customary for the bride to ask the groom’s family if they would like to host.
• Most rehearsal dinners are attended by all members of the bridal party, including significant others of the groomsmen and bridesmaids, the bride and groom’s immediate families, the person officiating the wedding and his or her spouse, out-of-town guests, and grandparents.
• Whether you are planning an elegant affair, a semi-formal sit-down, or a casual gathering, a printed invitation is a nice touch.
• The rehearsal dinner is usually held immediately following the wedding rehearsal, and it’s always a great idea to offer an hour of cocktails and hors d’oeuvres before everyone is seated.
• After dinner, the groom’s father traditionally gives a speech. The bride’s father may also give a toast, followed by the groom and the bride (if she wishes) to publicly thank the hosts of the rehearsal dinner, plus anyone else. The floor can then be open for others, usually led by the maid of honor offering up a few words.
• Following the toasts, the bride and groom typically distribute gifts to their wedding party.

And while it’s tempting to celebrate long after dinner is over, it’s always a good idea to make it an early night so everyone can rest for the big day! ~KGM