Do I need to send formal "Thank You" notes?

In our personal lives and business alike, saying “Thank You” is one of the most universally recognized and critical parts of any relationship between two parties. In the context of your wedding, you will be saying “Thank You” more than you probably ever have before — or will again! It is a classic tradition to send a hand-written note of gratitude, and it remains a classy thing to do today.

Be they for gifts you received at various parties, or for the vendors you hired to provide goods or services to create the perfect environment for your special day — or even for special people who go above and beyond in the love and support department — thank you notes leave an indelible impression with everyone.

You may develop a temporary case of carpal tunnel syndrome by the time the last “Thank You” has been sent, but your guests and loved ones deserve to be acknowledged for their participation. Likewise, your vendors will appreciate feedback on their services. The highest compliment you can pay them is to write a glowing letter of thanks and recommendation they can share with future brides.

It’s the last in a long list of demands on your time and will be well worth it! You won’t go wrong if you follow these simple guidelines for writing thank-you notes:

• Shower Gifts – Send out a note within 10 days of the shower.
• Wedding Gifts – Send out notes as soon as possible for gifts that arrive before the wedding. Try to get any remaining notes mailed (yes, mailed!) within two weeks after returning from your honeymoon — and don’t forget to include your new address!
• All Gifts and Services – Make it a point to mention the specific gift or service so that each note has the personal touch.

By the way, some people seem to think that writing thank-you notes is woman’s work. Ahem, no. Be sure the groom gets involved in this important part of the wedding responsibilities, and at least writes notes to the people on his guest list. That’s only proper! ~AW