Bridal Shower Etiquette

Of the events leading up to the wedding day, one of the most tradition-bound is the bridal shower. Dating back to the time of dowries, brides of yore were showered with items needed to set up housekeeping. Bridal showers of today are intimate, fun-filled gatherings to shower the Bride with items needed … to set up housekeeping!

As with other wedding traditions, strictly observed rules of etiquette for bridal showers have evolved for the 21st century. Even Emily Post would agree that the maid of honor is not obligated to host a bridal shower, although she certainly should have first dibs. If she doesn’t host, members of the bridal party or the bride’s extended family make excellent alternates. Note that “extended” should be taken seriously, and be warned: You may be seen as a gift-grabber if Mom throws the party.

Not invited to the wedding? Not invited to the shower! Period. With one exception — if a shower springs up at the cube farm. Keep in mind some people at the office may be invited to the wedding, and some may not. That’s why they’re called “work friends.”

Invited to more than one shower? Once you’ve given your gift at the first shower, you’re off the hook for additional shower gifts. And one last thing: Be a good guest and RSVP. Even if u txt it : ) ~AW